• Coping with High Functioning Anxiety
    Health

    How I Cope With High-Functioning Anxiety

    {Guest Post} Today’s post comes from Courtney Hollenbeck, who runs the inspirational Invisible Crown blog. I hope her tips for anxiety management will help you peacefully navigate the often-stressful holiday season! People pleaser. Over thinker. Procrastinator. Insomniac. Dwells on past mistakes. Nervous. Flaky. Loyal to a fault. These are all attributes of a person who struggles with high functioning anxiety. I am that person. To the outside observer, I’m a high-achieving, ambitious, and positive person who loves people. All of those things can be true, but take a peek inside my head and you’ll see the perpetual, gnawing anxiety beneath them. Stage Fright In my youth, I was involved in every…

  • My Experience with EMDR Therapy
    Health,  Personal Updates

    Using EMDR Therapy to Heal Chronic Fatigue

    For the past three months, I’ve been using EMDR therapy to treat my Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. It’s an unusual approach: using the mind to heal the body. But when your disease has no treatment, you go to some weird lengths to heal. Some patients try extreme diets, untested supplements, and even parasites in the pursuit of healing. In comparison, going to therapy seems pretty innocuous. But many CFS patients have a big issue with this kind of treatment. Our symptoms are so strange that we’re often written off as “crazy” or having a problem that’s “all in our head.” Doing a mind-based therapy feels like admitting insanity. I get it.…

  • how to find a therapist who's right for your needs and budget
    Health

    How to Find the Right Therapist for You

    I’ve seen a few therapists in my lifetime. Okay, more than a few. My childhood was peppered with traumatic events, so I was the kid who went to divorce camps and grief counselors instead of summer camps with fun counselors. As an adult, I’ve continued to see therapists for anxiety and trauma-related illness. Some of them have been good, a few have been awful, and one has been the most healing thing that’s happened to me in a long time. As the saying goes, you have to kiss a few frogs before you find a prince, and the same is true for therapists. It can take a while to find…

  • Why I Only Have One Child
    Health,  Motherhood

    Why I Only Have One Child

    When my son was about six months old, the comments began. Time for another one, they said. He needs a sibling. At first I laughed it off. I blamed lack of sleep and fresh memories of childbirth. But with each of my son’s milestones, my excuses started to get weaker and weaker. Because the truth felt shameful: my body and mind were too broken to have another baby.  I’d been developing Chronic Fatigue Syndrome for years, but it flared to its worst form when my son was eight months old. I was bed-bound for weeks at a time, too exhausted to do anything but breastfeed and crippled by guilt that I couldn’t…

  • Personal Updates

    One Word 2016: Return

    2015 was a wild year for me: I gave birth to a beautiful boy, moved to Southern France, and began leading a Discipleship Training School with my husband. We fueled our 12-hour workdays with baby-interrupted sleep and an unspeakable amount of coffee. RISE was my vision word for the year, and it couldn’t have been more accurate. There was much rising from sleep this year, and even more ‘rising to the occasion’ as I took on two new jobs—motherhood and school leadership—with little training and no idea how difficult each could prove. It was a year of high capacity, and though I’m tired, I also feel more accomplished than I have…