• single friend

    Dear Single Friend

    I got married and had a baby in my early twenties. It wasn’t the life I’d planned. I never scoured wedding blogs or pined after maternity shops. I never meant to be the first of our friend group to start a family. I simply fell in love, and the rest followed naturally. Meanwhile, you’re still single. I see you going to grad school, traveling the world, getting grown-up jobs. I hear about your parties, your brunches, and the Saturdays you spend alone with your Netflix.   Our lives are different, but I think yours is lovely, too. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s not. If you’re beyond a certain age, you probably feel pressure…

  • Marriage

    Life is Hard, Marriage is Easy

    After two and a half years of marriage, the phrase my husband and I return to again and again is this: “Life is hard, marriage is easy.” I am painfully aware that this isn’t true for everyone. I know plenty of people with hard marriages, people who struggle to keep their relationships happy and healthy. But for us, marriage has been a pleasant surprise—not nearly as difficult as everyone warned us it would be, and a whole lot more joyful than we expected.  Sometimes I think we just got lucky. I’m certain I married up, and Sam swears the same. Our personalities are fairly compatible, our work allows us to…